Why mamas boys

Later on, they were expected to display fewer signs of aggression and hostility. They were, it stands to reason, more adaptable, more patient. A study published in the journal Child Development, meanwhile, found that the quality of the mother-son bond directly related to his sense of morality and his likelihood to have healthy romantic relationships, and that conflict was the biggest predictor of delinquency.

And in 's "The Mama's Boy Myth," author Kate Lombardi used her relationship with her son as a base from which to explore mother-son closeness, ultimately arguing that despite the pressure many mothers feel to let their sons learn to cope largely on their own, keeping them in a closer relationship ultimately helps boys grow into well-adjusted men.

Men who grew up having close relationships with their mothers, she writes, are less inclined to argue and more inclined to "work it out.

In my own work, I have encountered many close mother-son relationships, particularly while researching my first book, "Raising Boys Without Men," which looked at many single mothers raising boys on their own. These mothers were, perhaps not surprisingly, inclined to develop very close bonds with their sons. I followed these families for many years and came to understand that mothers, as a whole who refused to buy into the fear of being too close to their sons tended to raise boys who were more responsible, sensitive to the needs of others and more self-assured.

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Your email address will not be published. Skip to content. Previous Previous. Next Continue. The author is either joking or must be an extreme far left Democrat!! LOL What is our society coming to! As a single mother of 2 girls and 1 boy…. I find that you all are ignorant!! All 3 of my kids are different and had to have different discipline and different levels of care.

My oldest girl very independent as a young child, as a teenager more emotional and cares what people think. My middle, also a girl, more attached to me as a young child, now teenager, could care less what people think about her and speaks her mind and stands up for what she believes in. My girls are 11 months and 15 days apart. My youngest, boy, totally a mommas boy, but independent, emotional, but still wants hugs from mom when sad.

He was taught to be ok in being sad, angry, happy whatever emotion he was feeling is ok. You are all weak from what i have read. Haters gonna hate. Thank you!! Well said…I totally agree with you. Single parent as well. Well said Thankyou, the problem being a jealous wife of the son and mother relationship which is also called respect. I believe it really depends on how a mother raises her son. Personally, I believe on raising a boy to be confident and independent.

To also have manners and to treat a woman with respect. My goal as a parent is to raise my children to be productive, strong and independent. Emotion is God-given and not considered a weakness, it is what makes us human. It gives us the ability to have compassion for one another. This article is ludicrous in its total content. When we are born we know very little of life, but when we begin to understand, we reach the bridge of life.

Once there we see the men on the right of the bridge and the women on the left. The boys go to the right and the girls go to the left, not the opposite. He probably does not mean the things he says, but will say them to get what he wants. If you give in, he will continue to use manipulation to get his way.

If he's a mama's boy, it is not a good idea to move into her house. Chances are, their relationship as mother and son will come before your relationship with him. He will most likely side with his mother on every subject as to not upset her.

He may even go to his mother when the two of you have a disagreement. While he can do these things even if you live outside of her home, the distance will help some. You do not want to feel like the third wheel when living with your spouse. If you are in financial straits and his parents have offered to help you by letting you move in, make sure there is an end date in mind. If you are doing it to save for your own home, realize that you are risking damaging your marriage.

Keep in mind, however, that living apart from your in-laws does not guarantee a stress-free relationship with them. Many couples still report feeling pressure. It's not your place to go to your mother-in-law and ask her to back off.

If you want to talk to anyone about the situation, it's your husband you need to talk to. Do not come from a place of anger, though. When you approach the topic, be sensitive and tell him that you feel a little jealous and would like more alone time with him.

Remind him that you like his mother and don't mind going to her house for dinner once a month, but she should not be coming on all of your activities and dates just because she is lonely or has poor boundaries.

Explain that you do not want her out of your lives, but you both need time to connect and grow as a couple. It's one thing for your mother-in-law to make his choices if that's what he is comfortable with. She might pick out his clothes, his food, and even his career. If he is incapable of making these decisions without her input, however, that might be something to consider trying to iron out. You don't want his mother to become a decision-maker about choices you make as an individual or as a couple.

Do not include your mother-in-law in your marital disagreements. Your mother-in-law should not be part of your personal decisions about finances, career paths, parenting, or vacations unless you directly ask for her input. You probably ignored red flags about this when dating, so if you are now seeing it in your marriage, you need to address it sooner rather than later.

If trying to communicate and resolve problems around this does not move things in the right direction, professional help is probably in order.

Professional relationship counseling can help couples address boundary issues.